Despite over two decades of marriage, the renowned actress and her cinematographer husband have faced challenges. Early on, his ex-wife, Vera Steimberg, accused the actress of stealing him and causing their divorce.

The actress, known for her Hollywood allure, had past relationships with Lyle Lovett, Kiefer Sutherland, Liam Neeson, and others. However, in 2000, while filming *The Mexican*, she met her future husband, who was still married, while she was dating Benjamin Bratt. She later described the encounter as life-changing, calling him her soulmate.

Though they didn’t start dating immediately, he filed for divorce six months later—something Steimberg strongly resisted. The actress insisted they only pursued romance after resolving their previous relationships, despite rumors suggesting otherwise.

In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, she defended herself against accusations of breaking up his marriage, stating she was unfairly blamed due to her fame. When asked about their early attraction, she admitted, “Yes and no,” acknowledging their connection but denying an affair.

Controversy intensified when she was spotted wearing a shirt that read *A Low Vera*, widely interpreted as a dig at Steimberg. She stood by the statement but kept its meaning private.

After the divorce was finalized, the couple officially began their relationship. Though their careers often keep them apart, they maintain their bond through letters—one of which was a seven-page note from her husband that she still treasures. She also took up knitting to cope with loneliness.

Despite media scrutiny and Steimberg calling her a “husband thief,” the actress maintains that their love was genuine. She credits her husband for shifting her once self-absorbed focus on filmmaking to a more fulfilling life.